3. Convert the following thoughts
into Alternative Thinking
"I've been applying for a job now that I finished my degree but haven't had much
luck.. all these companies pay so badly..."
"Maybe I should just compromise with the fact that I'll never be payed as much
as I want."
"Well, at least there ARE companies that do wanna hire me. And even if they pay
badly at least they'll be providing me with experience which I can then use to
apply to other companies!"
Correct! In this thought we're loking at the situation
through a more positive point of view. We're not focusing on the negatives or
our emotion of hopelessnes/defeat.
Wrong... Try again!
"My car broke down... I'm stuck here and now I'm going to have to pay someone to
come pick me up ..."
"Ok, I've got insurance so that'll help me pay to fix my car. Plus today's my
wife's day off, I can just call her to come pick me up and the towing service
can take the car!"
"This is awful, I can't afford to fix my car right now, why do only bad things
happen to me!?"
Correct! Instead of panicking and letting emotions take
hold of us, we're instead coming up with a solution by thinking calmly of the
issue as if we weren't the ones afflicted. It's as if we're thinking of what
someone else would say to us if they found us panicking about this
sittuation!
Wrong... Try again!
"I got so many project deliveries next week I have no idea how I'm going to make
it through..."
"I could just give up on one project or another and try again next year I guess.
Its not like I was going to get a good grade anyways."
"Well, its not the first time I've gone through this. If I just organize my
schedule I'm sure I'll pull through. Plus even if the grade isn't what I want,
there's always the appeal period."
Correct! Once again we're thinking about this calmly,
rather than immediately giving up. We're pausing and thinking about possible,
feasible, solutions, devoid of emotions or negativity.
Wrong... Try again!